My thoughts on Robin Thicke, “rape culture”, Miley Cyrus and parenting. Whew!

This post was inspired by a local newspaper’s Facebook post/article this morning asking if Robin Thick was promoting “rape culture” with his lyrics and recent VMA performance. Rape Culture is described as: “a concept which links rape and sexual violence to the culture of a society, and in which prevalent attitudes and practices normalize, excuse, tolerate, or even condone rape.”

“At the heart of rape culture is a philosophy that dehumanizes women — from jokes to music videos to pornography to locker-room mentality. Rape culture does not mean every woman is raped, but rather upholds and encourages the forces that make such violence possible.”

– David Cook,  Don’t let Robin Thicke Escape

My first thought was: “GIVE ME A BREAK.” There are times as a woman that I’m offended by something degrading or dehumanizing and I understand what this article is trying to say. However… when it comes to entertainment, I am an adult who is capable of distinguishing lyrics from real life. It’s the same way I feel about violent movies, etc. It’s not going to turn me into a rapist, murderer or sway me to do anything just because I enjoy something that maybe not be polite or what people expect me to watch or listen to. Not only that but why is Robin Thicke being picked on? There are thousands upon thousands of artists who have far more degrading and even violent lyrics. Remember when Eminem talked about killing his wife? How many times do you hear the word “ho” or “bitch” in a rap song?

I feel this way: if it’s something that is effecting you negatively, cut it out of your life. If you don’t want to your kids to listen or watch, don’t let them. It’s that simple. Until someone goes out and rapes a woman and says, “Man, that Robin Thicke song and VMA performance just really made me want to rape that bitch,” move on to a subject worthy of spending over a week freaking out about.

A comment and view point that I do agree with was posted as a response to the article on the newspaper’s Facebook:

“What the columnist is trying to say is that the act of dehumanizing women is at the foundation of rape culture. I’m sure Robin Thicke doesn’t condone rape in any way, but people don’t realize that promoting this culture of what it means to be a “real man” is what leads to rape in the first place.”

And that brings me to Miley Cyrus and parenting. Why do these two go hand in hand for me? Because since Sunday’s show, I have heard comment after comment about why Miley Cyrus is a terrible role model and 4 billion other reasons for why she’s awful. Let me tell you why she’s awful:
1) She can’t dance and I’m not saying that because she has no ass to twerk. She literally has no rhythm.
2) She can’t really sing that well. =(
3) She’s wrapped up in the “I’m growing up in Hollywood” mentality just like Lindsay Lohan, Britney Spears, and a thousand other teens who have been there, done that.

Now…do I have a problem with her performance? Other than what I stated above and that she is really unattractive with her tongue hanging out, not at all! It was a typical VMA performance. Remember when Britney ripped off her suit down to the nude sparkly bodysuit and writhed around on stage? The VMAs are the place to be shocking because, after all, it’s still MTV.

And that brings me to parenting.

I don’t think that celebrities are required to be a role model to our children. They do their job for the same reason I do mine, to get paid – NOT to babysit. So I think it comes down to the parent explaining the difference between Hannah Montana and Miley Cyrus if they’re worried about role models. I think kids should have their childhood and remain innocent for as long as possible but it’s also important not to let them be ignorant of what is real in life and what isn’t.